1、Unit 1 Knowing me,knowing you 人际交往是新普通高中英语课程标准中规定的话题之一,是培养学生英语学科核心素养的一个重要维度,该话题属于“人与社会”的主题。“Did you hear what happened to Adam last Friday?”Lindsey whispers to Tori.With her eyes shining,Tori brags,“You bet I did,Sean told me two days ago.”Who are Lindsey and Tori talking about?It just happens to be
2、 yours truly,Adam Freedman.I can tell you that what they are saying is not nice and not even true.Still,Lindsey and Tori arent very different from most students here at Linton High School,including me.Many of our conversations are gossip(闲话).I have noticed three effects of gossip:it can hurtpeople,i
3、t can give gossipers a strange kind of satisfaction,and it can cause social pressures in a group.An important negative effect of gossip is that it can hurt the person being talked about.Usually,gossip spreads information about a topicbreakups,trouble at home,even dropping outthat a person would rath
4、er keep secret.The more embarrassing or shameful the secret is,the juicier the gossip it makes.Probably the worst type of gossip is the absolute lie.People often think of gossipers as harmless,but cruel lies can cause pain.If we know that gossip can be harmful,then why do so many of us do it?The ans
5、wer lies in another effect of gossip:the satisfaction it gives us.Sharing the latest rumor(传言)can make a person feel important because he or she knows something that others dont.Similarly,hearing the latest rumor can make a person feel like part of the“in group.”In other words,gossip is satisfying b
6、ecause it gives people a sense of belonging or even superiority(优越感).Gossip can also have a third effect:it strengthens unwritten,unspoken rules about how people should act.Professor David Wilson explains that gossip is important in policing behaviors in a group.Translated into high school terms,thi
7、s means that if everybody you hang around with is laughing at what John wore or what Jane said,then you can bet that wearing or saying something similar will get you the same kind of negative attention.The dos and donts conveyed through gossip will never show up in any student handbook.The effects o
8、f gossip vary depending on the situation.The next time you feel the urge to spread the latest news,think about why you want to gossip and what effects your“juicy story”might have.【素养贴心语】生活中我们常听到“闲谈莫论他人非”“祸从口出”之类的警示语,这就提醒我们要“敏于行而慎于言”。否则,闲话说多了就很容易得罪人,影响与同学、老师、领导的关系,难以顺利地学习和生活。所以我们一定要学会与人交流、沟通的人际交往策略,去构建良好的人际关系。当然,学生由于家庭背景、思维方式等方面的差异,导致彼此之间的人际交往的认识、方法、习惯参差不齐,人际关系的处理自然也会有较大的差异。因此,我们要重视人际关系的学习,探寻人际交往的策略,增强自己的交际能力,更好地融入集体,更好地服务于社会和国家。
