1、How to Get Along with PeopleBy Dr. Dale A. RobbinsJust a few years ago, a simple placard was often displayed on the walls of many public school rooms. It said, Remember the Golden Rule: Do unto others as you would have them to do unto you. This simple code of behavior, when practiced, made our schoo
2、ls, and society, a far better place than they are today. The Golden Rule has been called the greatest principle of human relations and originated from the Bible with these words of Jesus: Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law a
3、nd the prophets.According to Jesus, two great commands serve as the foundation of all the teaching of law and the prophets. The first and greatest commandment is to love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, mind, and soul. He stated that the second great command is to love thy neighbor as thyself, w
4、hich is another reference to the Golden Rule. In other words, love is the act of doing unto others as we would want them to do unto us.The Golden Rule continues to be Jesus expected standard of behavior by His followers. It is not an option, but is considered a command of the Lord. Christians are ta
5、ught to treat others in the way which they wish to be treated, themselves. This is my commandment, That ye love one another, as I have loved you.The Golden Rule: A Catalyst of Human BehaviorWhen God created mankind, He established the law of reciprocity, which gave man the ability to reap in accorda
6、nce to what he would sow. Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap. This principle of sowing and reaping is both a natural and spiritual law. Its application is universal, whether were talking about agriculture, work ethics, our health, our relationshi
7、p with God, our marriage, or our relationships with each other. The kind of seed sown will determine the kind of harvest yielded. In effect, mans end-product is determined by what he chooses to sow. He is the catalyst for what he receives out of life.When we consider relationships with people, we di
8、scover that they are especially affected by what we sow. Human beings tend to be impressionable, reactionary creatures. In other words, they generally reflect the treatment they receive from others. Our behavior toward people tends to be the catalyst - the motivation for how they relate to us. Conse
9、quently, treating others with courtesy usually causes them to be courteous to us. Patience and kindness promotes patience and kindness, etc. Ask yourself how you wish to be treated? Would you like to be shown encouragement? Do you want your shortcomings to be treated with tolerance and forgiveness?
10、Do you desire to be shown love and acceptance? Then treat others with the same attitude and consideration that you wish to be shown. The great effect that we have upon others by our behavior, is one of the most important reasons that God wants us to fellowship with other believers. The Bible says th
11、at one of our highest aims in meeting together as the church is to provoke or motivate each other toward love and good behavior. And let us consider one another to provoke unto love and to good works. And how can we motivate others to love and good works? By showing love and good works to them! Peop
12、le imitate how they are treated. What you sow into the lives of people is what you will reap.The Friendship FactorYoud be amazed at how many people feel lonely and lack friends simply because they dont apply the law of sowing and reaping. The ability to make friends has nothing to do with how attrac
13、tive, smart or successful you are. Once again, our attitudes and actions toward others are the measure by which they usually relate to us. Sometimes persons may have a low self-esteem or may be preoccupied with problems which may cause them to seem distant or unfriendly to others. Ironically, these
14、persons may often feel that others dont like them because they are somehow inferior or unacceptable in some way. However, this is not the case. People tend to react to whatever attitude is projected toward them, and the impression of coldness and unfriendiness is what causes others to keep their dis
15、tance.Sociologists say that friendliness and confidence are the greatest factors in initiating friendships. The Bible teaches, if you want friends, you must first sow your friendliness into others, and they will respond with friendship. A man that hath friends must show himself friendly. Be friendly
16、, but dont over impose yourself upon people. Remember, what we sow is what we reap. If we sow rudeness and inconsiderate behavior, we will likewise reap the results. Withdraw thy foot from thy neighbours house; lest he be weary of thee, and so hate thee.Diffusing ConflictIt is obvious that human beh
17、avior can be influenced by the impressionable behavior of others. This is something to remember whenever we encounter conflict in our relationships. The attitudes and behavior you sow can diffuse conflict. When a person is at peace with God, his demeanor is content, joyful and peaceful, not contenti
18、ous or angry. His nature lends toward peace rather than turmoil. Thus, the sower of a gentle, peaceful attitude tends to defuse hostility and anger. The Bible says, When a mans ways please the LORD, he maketh even his enemies to be at peace with him.Words are some of the most potent seeds that we ca
19、n sow. If we sow gentle, peaceful words it will tend to disarm conflict, rather than to provoke trouble. A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.If we are patient and persistent, our gentle expressions are far more likely to change hearts and opinions than anything else. G
20、entle, diplomatic words are as powerful and persuasive as harsh blows that break bones. By long forbearing is a prince persuaded, and a soft tongue breaketh the bone.The scripture says, The words of a wise mans mouth are gracious; but the lips of a fool will swallow up himself. Grace means unmerited
21、 favor, and gracious words are those filled with gestures of unearned kindness. The wise person, who wants to develop good relationships, looks for good and complementary things to sow into others. Everyone wants to be around those who are gracious with their speech. Heaviness in the heart of man ma
22、keth it stoop: but a good word maketh it glad.You are the Salt of the EarthBy now, you can see that the law of sowing and reaping can affect our human relations, dissolve conflict, and motivate the lives of our brethren. God has intended for His people, not to merely be a reflection of others behavi
23、or. He wants His followers to be the instigators and catalysts of good upon others. His presence within is intended to make a believer an influence on their environment, rather than being a product of their environment. Believers are to be the salt, or the influence of good upon the earth. Salt is a
24、 preservative which prevents corruption.Dear Christian, this is your mission on the earth, to sow the seeds of God, to be the role-model of godliness upon society. Your assignment is to be a good influence upon others wherever you go, showing them a Christ-like example, sowing words, attitudes and b
25、ehavior that will motivate them to follow. As a Christian, God has imparted Himself in you to represent Him and to do His works. Thereby, let us faithfully continue to sow, both to the saint and the sinner, the Golden Rule and the example of our Lord Jesus Christ. And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.
